I read in the Globe and Mail yesterday that Britain’s National Trust has recently compiled a list of 50 Things to Do Before You’re 11 3/4, outdoor things like “climb a tree”, “throw some snow” or “camp out in the wild”.
One quote from the Globe article that struck me was, “The list is sure to bring back happy memories for this era’s overprotective parents, who had far more freedom than they will likely ever give to their children. According to a 2007 survey by the Children’s Society, some 43 percent of parents in Britain said kids shouldn’t go out alone with friends until they turn 14. In contrast, many of these parents roamed their neighbourhoods without an adult at the age of 10 or younger.”
When I was 4, I remember playing “running away” with my also-4-year-old best friend. We’d pack our knapsacks with stuffed animals and cookies, pile them in a red wagon tied behind a bike, and take off for a picnic at the park, a 5-minute walk away but out of earshot and mostly out of sight from our houses. “Have fun!” our parents would tell us, holding open the door as we ran outside. My 4-year-old, by contrast, has never been outside without adult supervision for more than about a couple of minutes (nor does she want to– she’s scared to be alone).
Everyone I know who has kids has similar memories of childhood freedom far beyond what our own children have experienced. While I hear much talk about childhood obesity and the need to be outside, I rarely hear discussion of what I think is one of the main obstacles to active outside play– parental fear. As I recall, even the well-known book Last Child in the Woods talks about the things families can do outside together these days, while the author tell of the solitary ravine adventures of his childhood.
For me, the point of the “running away” trips to the park was that we were running away– no parents allowed! We could giggle at our own jokes, roll down the hill until we felt sick, and scare ourselves with stories of the big bad wolf who lived in the hedge and was going to catch us. We did not play outside because it was healthy or enriching but because it was our space, where no one would tell us not to run or shout or make a mess. How sad it is that today adults must make a checklist of outdoor activities for kids, launched complete with a YouTube video and a website where you can earn virtual badges for each activity completed. The extensive list of parental safety tips on the 50 Things website includes, “Maintain constant contact and supervision of children whilst undertaking these activities” and “For the more challenging activities find an organised event to ensure the safest conditions for your child”. I guess this is better than nothing in an era when tree climbing and picking up snow, never mind throwing it, are banned from many school playgrounds on the grounds that they could be dangerous.
Wouldn’t it be great if all us parents could decide together to trust our kids with the freedom we had? If we could let them all outdoors and trust that there is safety in numbers? An interesting related resource is Free Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry).